If you have been reading for the last couple of days you know that i have been writing about dilemmas & it has been all fun & games, but with a seriously twisted angle. So now let´s look at a more serious dilemma. Another dilemma where it´s not all black & white. In Denmark where I live it is illegal to pay a woman to be a surrogatmother & I know that a lot of my dear readers are American where it is legal to pay a woman to be a surrogatmother. In Denmark you can get medical help if you have trouble concieving a child, but as we all know it is not possible for everyone to get pregnant & sometimes it´s unfortunately not possible to stay pregnant. Then you can adopt, but some people has a huge desire to have their own biological child. I have absolutely no idea what that feels like so I am not judging anybody. But the thing is that some Danish couples go to other countries fx India & China where they pay a poor woman to have their child. So the dilemma of the day: Is it okay to go to another country & pay a person in need to have your baby when it´s not even legal in their own country? Is it unethic to pay a person that is desperate to feed her own family or is it helping another person in need & getting something back as well? Is it okay to put a person in need through this physical & emotional rollercoaster & not to forget it´s not exactly socially accepted in some countries to give birth to other peoples children. Are we talking modern slavery? What do you think about this dilemma? Should the Danish couples just accept that they can´t have an biological child? Should it be their right to get a biological child? Why isn´t it fulfilling to them to adopt a child when there are so many orphans out there? Let me know your thoughts. What would you do?